Tell Me What You Want

The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life by Justin J. Lehmiller

Justin J. Lehmiller’s Tell Me What You Want is an insightful and enlightening journey into the intricacies of human sexual desire. This fascinating book delves into the science of fantasies, exploring what they reveal about us and how understanding them can enhance our intimate relationships.

Based on one of the largest studies on sexual fantasies in America, Lehmiller’s book provides a comprehensive look at the diverse range of desires that people experience. He explores common themes in fantasies, such as power, adventure, and taboo, and discusses how these desires can reflect deeper psychological needs and motivations.

One of the book’s key messages is that sexual fantasies are normal and healthy. Lehmiller encourages readers to embrace their desires as a natural part of their sexuality, rather than something to be ashamed of. By understanding and accepting our fantasies, we can improve our self-awareness and deepen our connections with our partners.

Lehmiller offers practical advice on how to communicate openly about fantasies with partners, emphasizing the importance of honesty and mutual consent. He provides tips on how to introduce new elements into a relationship safely and consensually, creating opportunities for exploration and growth.

The book also includes exercises and conversation starters that can help couples discuss their desires and boundaries more comfortably. These tools are designed to foster intimacy and trust, ultimately leading to a more satisfying and fulfilling sex life.

Lehmiller’s writing is both empathetic and informative, making complex scientific concepts accessible and relatable. He demystifies the world of sexual fantasies, encouraging readers to explore their desires without fear or judgment. His approach empowers individuals to take control of their sexual health and happiness.

By highlighting the diversity of human sexuality, Lehmiller fosters a greater understanding of what drives our desires and how they can be used to enhance our relationships. His research-based insights offer a fresh perspective on intimacy and self-discovery.

Tell Me What You Want is a must-read for anyone interested in exploring the science of sexual desire and improving their intimate relationships. Justin J. Lehmiller’s blend of research, practical advice, and relatable storytelling makes this book an invaluable resource for individuals and couples alike.

Whether you’re curious about your own fantasies or looking to spice up your relationship, this book provides a thoughtful and engaging guide to understanding and embracing your desires. With its emphasis on openness and self-acceptance, Tell Me What You Want is a powerful tool for personal growth and connection.